Surfing to Surrender

Surfing to Surrender

"We live between the Act of Awakening and the Act of Surrender..." 

In 2012, I began to develop a fear of being in large bodies of water. Odd because I love the ocean and moved from NYC to SoCal to have a "beach life" and absolutely loved growing up so close to the beach in Virginia. I'm also a water Sun Sign and always enjoyed swimming and playing in the water. Funny that many of our developed phobias and fears don't make much sense until you lift the hood and dive below the surface. I find that a lot of my fears are simply metaphors for a far deeper stirring that is going on within...

I am with you...

I am with you...

To state that so much has happened lately feels like an understatement. The magnitude of shocking, jarring, and heartbreaking news we've been witnessing is overwhelming. The fact that this is a collective experience adds more difficulty because I realize for many of us, it is slamming down on top of our very personal and individual traumas. This can bring up a lot of emotions and unearth deep layers within us that are still screaming out for healing. I am with you.


The pain we are all experiencing is enough to bring the strongest of us to our knees and make the sanest of us feel as if we are losing our minds. I was reminded today reading an article, that our nervous systems aren't equipped to handle these chronic states of shock we are all being traumatized by. From devastating natural disasters to mass shootings and hate crimes, our sense of safety is being shaken with tremendous force...

How to Replenish Energy for Your Goals

How to Replenish Energy for Your Goals

So here we are coming into the last full week in January. 

How are you feeling about the way you're starting off 2017?

Did you go full steam ahead only to fizzle out a few days later? I've noticed for years that I did that same thing, so you aren't alone.

So many of us get that big burst of energy and motivation from all the "New Year New You" hype because it's contagious. 

So why do so many of us "fall off the wagon" or "fail" at our New Year's resolution just days or weeks after we hit the ground running?

Consciously Collect The Answers To Your Health

There is absolutely no magic pill for optimal well-being, but I consider myself a "Fairy Guide-mother" of sorts for my clients so I figured I'd let you in on one of my best tips! 

One of the biggest problems I see with most of my one-on-one clients is simply being unaware of the things that aren't helping them get healthier. 

By utilizing a lifestyle log like the one I'm giving you here, you can begin developing a personalized road map and action plan. You'll quickly start identifying habits, patterns, and behaviors that aren't leading you in the direction of your goals; while simultaneously highlighting the things that are! 

This is a massive action step in your journey towards living your most beautiful life! Especially if you're feeling overwhelmed, are unsure of where to start, or are simply lacking clarity around your current lifestyle behaviors. 

Remember, we're all unique individuals and what works for me may not work for you. This is why logging your information is so helpful.

The practice of consciously collecting your lifestyle data will give you answers.

It will show you what is working.

It will show you what isn't working.

All you need to do is put in a little bit of work in to reap a really big reward.

Download your very own Lifestyle Log now and start creating your very own personalized road map to optimal well-being! 

Take The Pressure Off

When I first started my health journey and wanting to eat better the thing that stressed me out the most was cooking! I was never a big fan of the kitchen. I never really had a lot of confidence while cooking a meal. And I definitely didn't really know what I was doing. So whenever I would try to cook, I would just get stressed out.


One of the biggest stressors was that I would download these complex recipes, and I would try to follow them exactly, but all the steps and the long list of ingredients would overwhelm me. So I’d end up with these meals that honestly tasted like crap.

(My poor husband.)


Thankfully, I started to realize that I needed to take a step back and start deconstructing the kitchen and my experience in it. This shifted my experience, and I was able to reframe what was happening. Coming at it with a new perception allowed me to recognize that being in the kitchen and cooking a meal for myself was an act of self-care. It was about filling my body with nourishing food so I could live the way I wanted to.


Why Moving Has Deeper Meaning For Me

Why we broke our lease and are moving out of our picture perfect apartment? The short answer is I'm choosing wellness over perfection.

These days, I'm not shy about sharing my struggles with perfectionism and codependency. Those issues ruled my life and controlled me for way too long, and my personal growth suffered in return. Personally, sharing my reality is part of my process. 

There is no doubt that I love beautiful things. Appreciation for specific aesthetics is part of who I am. However, there was a time in my life when I believed those very things defined me. It was a time when I deliberately resisted the depth of my being. I forced myself to live on the surface. And that kept me in all the surface level chaos.

For years, I've worked hard to release the grip I had on perfection. And the tangled web it formed with my codependency issues. For me, I had to get clear about what was happening in my life. Recognize why I had developed these specific patterns. Come to terms with the fact that they were no longer helping me grow and start the work of letting them go.

Story-telling and metaphors are modalities of learning and teaching for me. They always have been so it makes sense that I find the deeper meaning (the lesson) of this move and letting go of my picture perfect apartment as a metaphor of what my life had been like. 

My upbringing was unlike most and unfortunately like many. Addiction along with mental and physical abuse made my childhood home chaotic and crazy. In my mind, I thought that I had to be a certain way, look a certain way, and have certain things in order for people to like me. Back then I thought no one would like me if they knew what was really going on. You know, on the inside, behind the closed doors. So, you see, when I grew up, I learned super quickly to paint a perfect picture. 

My younger self thought if I were smiling on the sidelines at the football game as varsity cheerleading captain no one would ever think I had to call the cops on my stepfather the night before. 

As I've continued my inner work on these issues, I've had to learn to prioritize self-care and my well-being over and over again. I had to learn that it was more important to make decisions based on my own best interest instead of worrying about what others would think. 

And in this circumstance, the Universe presented me with a huge opportunity to grow even more in this area of my life. I kinda feel like the Universe, and I are having a conversation that sounds something like this...

Universe: "Lindsey, you've been working really hard on things and you say you are really ready to continue to release your grip on perfection, so we are going to gift you with yet another opportunity to grow."
Me: "Okay, I'm ready. I am."
Universe: "Okay then. You know the picture-perfect, beautifully decorated, dream apartment you are in?"
Me: "Oh, yes! I love it!"
Universe: "Well, it's going to make you sick and ultimately you'll have to choose between your well-being or your grip on perfection. Good luck."
Me: "WTF! Ugh."
Me (a while later): "Fine. I said I was ready. And I am committed to my inner work."

Visually my apartment is pretty damn perfect. It was renovated just a few years ago, so everything is brand new, updated, and absolutely beautiful. Since we decided to make the move from NYC to SoCal with no furniture, I was able to decorate from scratch. It's a happy apartment. Bright, spacious, open-concept, with stunning ocean views. 

The problem? 

The insides are basically old and unkept, making it a breeding ground for all kinds of problems like mold and other allergens that I'm extremely sensitive to. *I talk more about this in the video. 

So there you have it. I'm letting go of my stainless steel sub-zero fridge, marble countertops and backsplash that matches my hand towels - yes, perfectly! And I'm finally in a place where I'm okay with it. It feels a bit bittersweet but serves my highest good, and that is what really matters most of all.

And yes, in the big picture, I do recognize how blessed and fortunate I truly am. I know that some don't have the comfort of even having a roof over their heads. I've actually been in that situation when I was a child. However, I don't think anyone's process and journey should ever be judged of discounted. 

Start Asking Yourself This Life Changing Question

What would happen if the next time you were out to eat your server came up and asked...

"What do you need to eat?"

That's right. Not the usual, "What would you like or what can I get you?"

Would you order differently? 
Would your awareness around your order shift?
Would you feel uncomfortable?

I know bringing more consciousness to your eating isn't always easy. However, it is very necessary if you want to make lasting changes to your health. 

It has somehow become the norm to make food choices based on our emotional states (hello, "comfort food") instead of what our body actually NEEDS to thrive beautifully in optimal health. Just because it's deemed normal doesn't make it healthy!

My intention with this weeks video is to bring awareness to this important topic. To start the conversation on why everyone is okay with simply settling into these toxic and destructive behaviors with food. 

So let's get talking! Ask yourself "What do I need to eat?" at your next meal and let me know what comes up for you. It's been an absolute game changer for me! I encourage you to share your thoughts in the comments below the blog or in my private Facebook group

If you are ready to UPGRADE your life and discover what it feels like to live beautifully in optimal well-being then let's talk. Fill out an enrollment form now to see if you're a good fit for my coaching program. 



How to Stop Unhealthy Snacking

There is nothing wrong with having a snack. 

However, there is something VERY wrong when you are snacking while completely full. 

This unhealthy and destructive behavior is harmful to your health in so many ways. There are many reasons why this occurs and it's important to discover the root of those reasons and work through them. 

Today I'm giving you just one simple tool to help stop unhealthy snacking.

Please share your thoughts in the comments below and let me know if this is something you will try in the future.